There’s a fabulous line from the Sandra Bullock film, Miss Congeniality, about “the perfect date”: April 25 … because it’s not too hot; it’s not too cold. All you need is a light jacket…”
Ah, but that choosing a wedding date were THIS easy!
While it may seem daunting, settling on this all important date doesn’t have to be an excruciating process.
We were talking about this exact thing just the other day. Of course, the team leaped into action to find out some tips, tricks, and hacks for choosing not just a “great” date for your wedding, but the “perfect” date.
Choosing a wedding date is probably one of the top three most important decisions that you’ll have to make as a couple — it will impact every single aspect of your special day. You may have an idea of walking down the aisle or what the cake should look like, but until you decide when you’re getting married, you can’t commit to anything. You might be asking yourself, “Where do I even start?”
At Invitations by R Squared, we know that the process is completely unique and that’s part of what makes your wedding date so special to you.
The team talked with our favorite planners and came away with some great thoughts to share.
Consider the weather when choosing a destination wedding
The favorite times of the year to get married are June, September, and October, and it’s no wonder! The weather is gorgeous beautiful in early summer and fall just about everywhere in the world. We love every season for its unique beauty, but are you really going to want to wear a traditionally styled wedding dress in August? Will you be able to get your fiancé to wear a gown or a suit if it’s over 95 degrees?
Consider all the factors of an off-season date
Getting married in January or March might help cut your rental venue fee down but you have to be prepared to make sacrifices in other areas. For example, let’s say that peonies are your absolute favorite flower and you can’t imagine having a bouquet with anything else, but they’re going to cost a small fortune. You may have to opt for something locally grown, not cost prohibitive, perhaps including the hot trend of succulent accents.
The same concept applies for Friday vs. Saturday weddings. Although a venue might be able to give you a break on their minimums for a Friday reception, be aware that the rest of your destination wedding vendors might not be able to.
Use your imagination to envision your destination wedding day
Imagine that your wedding day has finally arrived. What does that look like for you and your fiancé? A garden setting with scads of blooming roses? Vineyards dripping with grapes? Snow-covered mountaintops? An exotic, perhaps, Caribbean white sand beach? By narrowing down your potential wedding date to one season (or two) you can significantly cut down some of the stress and confusion.
Think twice about choosing a major holiday
In addition to Christmas, Valentine’s Day and New Year’s Eve, you may also want to reconsider tying the knot on religious holidays, major sporting events, Father’s Day and other holidays of this nature, and September 11th.
Although holiday weddings can be super festive, your wedding date is something you want to celebrate for years to come because of the meaning behind it, not because it was on Valentine’s Day or New Year’s Eve. Also, there are significant costs that are associated with holiday weddings. For example, the price of roses during Valentine’s Day is just crazy, so having them featured in your wedding florals could put a big dent in your overall budget.
We say the biggest factor to consider is your guests. As much as they love you, do they really want to spend a major holiday celebrating you instead of being able to
celebrate them? Yes, your wedding is about the two of you, but you also want to make it an event that your guests are excited about and can afford to attend. Hotels, flights and car rentals can all get very expensive, especially during a holiday weekend.
Focus on what you want your destination wedding day to be
By now, you should have your potential dates narrowed down to a month or two and this is where it gets fun! Within the months that made it to the final round, are there any dates that are meaningful and significant? Are there any dates you want to avoid?
Take your time and don’t rush
We have seen larger local or hometown weddings planned and carried out in just a few months. However, that’s not always the case, and especially when your event is a destination wedding. These take more planning; sometimes as much as a year in advance. When brides contact us about getting their Save the Date cards or destination wedding invitations quickly, we always do our best to accommodate them. With other areas of your wedding, where you haven’t planned enough time, there may be sacrifices. Seriously, take your time in planning things out with your fiancé.
Think about other aspects of your destination wedding and how they will all play out
Now, depending on what other aspects of your wedding are important, you might want to keep an open mind to a few dates. What if your choice of venue is booked or your favorite photographer is out of town? What about the important people in your family? You will want to make sure they can attend!
Our team truly feels that the most significant factor in planning any wedding, especially a destination wedding, is time. Give yourself enough time to make these early choices mindfully. It’s your day – allow yourself and your fiancé to experience the magic of creating it for yourselves.
We know that this day is just going to be the best ever, and we couldn’t be happier for you!