One thing we really love (and can’t stop obsessing over) are our same-sex couples and their totally on-trend wedding style.
If you’ve been searching for the perfect dress, tux or accessories for your upcoming nuptials, we’re sharing about four real couples and how they arrived at their same sex wedding fashion destination.
Their attire played up the romantic holiday with pretty pearl jewelry and luxe fabrics like satin and lace. They both went the nontraditional route for their wedding looks and opted for cocktail-length frocks. Not only were their dresses the perfect combination of sexy and sweet, but they showed off the couples’ killer appliqued and beaded heels.
Julio and Ryan’s ceremony was held in midtown Manhattan at a rooftop terrace.
They nailed the urban-chic vibe of their wedding, ditching classic tuxes and instead accessorizing dark jeans and tailored jackets with colorful prints. As a finishing touch, the couple opted for custom Converse sneakers instead of dress shoes.
While Lisel opted for an embellished lace gown and a full veil, Rose wore a streamlined dress with subtle lace detailing and classic jewelry. The end result? A perfectly balanced combination of romance and fashion-forward elements.
You can’t go wrong with a classic black and white palette.
Andrew and Stephan kept their looks simple yet fashion-forward and opted for white jackets with black detailing. To play up the contrasting colors, choose a tuxedo shirt with black studs and pair it with a black bow tie. Finish the look with patent leather shoes for a final look that’s effortlessly chic (and just a little bit James Bond!).
We also have heard from some of our same sex couples about the challenges they had with planning their weddings.
We don’t mean to be all “Debbie Downer” on you, but the couples we spoke with had actually come to us in the hope that we would share the things they felt other couples would want to know about.
So, then we talked with our community of LGBTQ wedding planning professionals to find out what they see as the big mistakes that couples make when planning a same sex wedding.
Big Same-Sex Wedding Challenge #1
The first mistake is that couples have too many expectations for their budget. It’s amazing how you can take a couple that eats out three nights a week and then ask them what their budget is to feed 200 people the type of food that they enjoy when eating out.
The couple may say that they have a couple of drinks, get appetizers and an entrée and they’ll spend $75 a piece, but they want to feed their guests something similar for $30 a head.
This is not a two-hour dinner for two people. It’s a six-hour event that starts with a wedding ceremony and then goes all the way through to the final goodnight, with everything in between. That includes a full meal, appetizers, hors d’oeuvres, cake, coffee and service.
You’re going to want to rethink what you have available to spend on this event.
The average catered wedding costs about $20,000 these days. That doesn’t include extras like a honeymoon, wedding dresses, tuxes and rings. That’s for the average number of people at a wedding, which is about 125. That’s about $150 per head for the event. That’s a big difference from $30 a head.
Destination weddings have become extremely popular, and are often more cost efficient, since you’re not likely going to fly 125 of your nearest and dearest half-way around the world. It’s something to think about.
Another big mistake is that very few couples getting married have run large events with a lot of people attending and a lot of separate moving parts that must be coordinated.
One potential problem that our crew has noted was that many couples don’t have any idea how to plan out the timeline for a wedding.
A couple will give their planner an itinerary they started working on their own. The planner then must tell them there is absolutely no way that one hour is enough time to have cocktails and hors d’oeuvres when you have over 150 people.
Their guests are not going to come into the dining room quickly, because they just got there. People want a drink, and they want to visit with other guests.
You’d have to shut down bars and cut everyone off to move people that fast. People will be in line, and you’d have to tell them, “No drinks, and go eat now.”
Couples don’t always understand itineraries and letting an experienced wedding planner take care of your agenda can be an important part of your wedding day going well.
There have been those couples that want the first course served at 7:10, second course served at 7:15. Exactly how are we going to serve 200 people the first course and then in five minutes clear and have the second course served? It can’t be done.
Here’s the biggest and most important tip that was shared with us.
It’s about being inflexible.
Inflexibility is one of the worst things when you’re planning a wedding. You never get exactly what you want exactly how you want it.
We have such romantic notions about weddings. When you’ve waited so long for the chance to get married, you can get overly attached to certain ideas that will only elevate your stress levels rather than allow you to relax and enjoy this very special day in your life.
Using a checklist – like this one – to organize your “must haves” can significantly reduce any stress you may experience.
If you want, you can have the worst day of your life. We’ve never known that to succeed, but we’ve also seen some people try really hard to make it a bad day.
A good number of the same sex couples and families we deal with are absolutely amazing, because nothing bothers them. These are probably people who have their priorities in order. So, if their wedding cake melts on a hot day and they’d also probably be ok with their caterer slicking a whoopie pie together for them.
They’d laugh about it and enjoy the moment, as opposed to someone who is sobbing in a pile of tears because her cake melted.
We hope not.
At Invitations by R Squared we take the concerns of our clients seriously, but we also try to bring a little humor and levity to situations that can’t be helped.
That’s the nature of the wedding world; it’s challenging.
Things do go wrong, and you have to know how to roll with the challenges, find an answer to the problem, just be relaxed and understand it could have been a lot worse.
And all of this is going to start with some stellar Save the Date cards, wedding invitations, and all the rest of your wedding stationery suite! Here are some great ones! Get in touch with us! Let’s chat!
We have also put together some inspiring collections of curated wedding images. You’ll find those here!
Get your budget ironed out, get your itinerary working for you, and, most importantly, be prepared to be flexible about what you want and what is possible. Now make your plans and enjoy your very special happily-ever-after!