Tips for Planning your Same-Sex Destination Wedding
“No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.”
~ Justice Anthony Kennedy, Supreme Court of the United States
With this quote, we find that marriage and love are fully honored in our country. And what a fabulous thing!
The team at Invitations by R Squared congratulates all of the couples just getting engaged, planning a destination wedding and, possibly, wondering what they should be doing next…
Planning an event can be daunting. Planning a destination wedding? Well, it doesn’t have to be. We’re here to help. Let’s take a look at a few aspects of an LGBTQ destination wedding. We like to think of it as “a wedding.”
First off, every couple is fabulously and romantically unique. Every couple. Your wedding is a reflection of you, your future spouse, your love, and your personality. Don’t feel as though you must adhere to every wedding tradition you come across.
Your wedding will likely include some very unique touches and new traditions that your guests have never seen before. One wedding planner who specializes in supporting the LGBTQ community with their weddings heard someone utter these words: “That doesn’t happen at a real wedding!” Her response to the guest: “This IS a real wedding!” It’s all about the love, people!
You may choose not to have a formal wedding party. You and your future spouse may choose to journey down the aisle together. After all, this wedding is all about your and your choice to be together! Many same-sex couples are thinking outside the box when it comes to their destination wedding ceremony, and they are choosing the traditions they want to incorporate to make this event one of the most memorable ever.
Chances are, your guests are going to be doing a bit of traveling to join you and your partner for your special day. Having a fun welcome bag, with a greeting letter, waiting for them either at check-in or in their room shows them that their presence in sharing this most special day with you really, truly matters.
The team at Invitations by R Squared checked in with some of the most in-demand planners around to get some awesome ideas to share with you:
How many welcome bags? Generally speaking, one bag per couple is the norm. If a couple with children is attending, it’s a good idea to present a bag for the adults and a bag for the children. Because destination wedding parties are usually smaller, your welcome bags can be tailored very specifically to each guest. The planners at Just Marry!, in Orlando, Florida, suggest welcome bags especially designed for each guest, or couple, attending.
Budget your bags. You and your partner will determine how elaborate and how much planning will go into the welcome bags. Mandy Scott Events reminds us that maps and coupons to local attractions, often available for free from the department of tourism at your destination, are attractive additions to the welcome bag. Alison Events of San Francisco tells us that snacks are fun, work well with most budgets and are appreciated. Their formula for snacks is “something refreshing, something salty, and something sweet.” Nuts and fruits and perhaps a bottle of wine, all from local sources is always a good choice.
Consider the trip home. Your guests are travelling back to their homes. Choosing a container that is disposable, and preferably recyclable, is a must. Kristy at Momental Designs recommends a nice cotton or jute bag, often available at the local markets at your destination, which can be used later on for a variety of purposes.
Consider your guests. The destination wedding planners at We Do brought up the fact that sensitivity to food allergies is key, and to avoid snacks that include peanuts. Consider the climate of your location; even though just about everyone loves chocolate, in a hot and humid location, that could be a little challenging.
Basics versus unique. You can do a fab welcome bag that still reflects the style of you and your partner. Basics are always welcome – aloe, sunscreen and lip balm for warm-weather beach ceremonies. For adult welcome bags at a destination wedding in Mexico, perhaps a smaller bottle of good tequila and lemons or handmade artifacts from local artisans. Think of the fun you and your partner would have shopping in those few days prior to the arrival of your guests!
The Welcome Letter. Handwritten, of course. The beauty of the destination wedding is that your party will be comprised of those nearest and dearest to you and your partner. This letter is a grand opportunity for you both to communicate how much your guests being there to share this day, this event with you means to you and your partner. It doesn’t need to be long, but it should be heartfelt. You can check out some examples of a wedding welcome letter here.
As you know, at Invitations by R Squared, we LOVE love and we love weddings. All weddings. Please drop by our shop here and take a look at the wonderful Save the Date cards and wedding invitations we have for you. All can be customized to reflect your style for your special day. Looking for more inspiration, come see our Pinterest boards here. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! We are SO very happy for you!