The team at Invitations by R Squared gets questions all the time about timing and etiquette about Save the Date cards, destination wedding invitations, and other wedding stationery.
In light of this, we’ve compiled some important Save the Date and invitation questions you’ll want answered before you send them out. If brides are asking these questions via email, there must be others who are thinking about this and not asking.
Some brides wonder if they really need to send out Save the Date cards.
When it comes to a destination wedding, sending a Save the Date card is vital. Your guests will need and appreciate the heads-up, and it’s a fantastic way to get everyone excited about your wedding. And you’ll get your own creativity flowing early in the planning process! And, speaking of inspiration, these boards at Pinterest are a wealth of destination wedding inspiration!
One of the most frequent questions we hear is, “Do I have to send someone a wedding invitation if I sent them a Save the Date?”
It’s a must to send a wedding invitation to anyone who received a Save the Date announcement. There’s a clear expectation when a Save the Date card is received that an invitation will shortly follow. Failing to send one is essentially the same as uninviting a guest. In other words, completely unacceptable.
If finances have become an issue to the planning since the Save the Dates were sent, the answer is to cut back on the scale of catering, music, flowers or invitations — instead of on people already planning to come. For further perspective on the necessity of the Save the Date card, as well as more stellar wedding etiquette tips, read more right here.
In planning your destination wedding, and the mailing of your wedding stationery, timing is key.
Many brides wonder, “How far in advance should we send out Save the Dates and invitations?” Savvy wedding planners advise that you send out Save the Date cards eight to ten months prior, and the destination wedding invitations – with all of the other elements of your wedding stationery suite – eight to ten weeks before your big day. Not only do some people have to apply for passports and save money, but there are those who must secure time away from their jobs, possibly arrange child care, and attend to other pressing matters just so they can join you.
As much advance notice as possible will give guests more flexibility when they’re making travel arrangements, too. With this in mind, add on an extra two or three weeks to those time frames to ensure that guests have adequate time to prepare for what is essentially a vacation. You’ll want to be sure everyone you love is there to see all the planning come together.
In these days of technological communication, we sometimes hear, “Can I send it via e-mail?”
There are online stationery companies, offering email Save the Dates and even invitations. Some brides like the perceived convenience, however there are a few significant down sides. E-vites are notorious for getting filtered into guests’ spam or junk mail folders. It is also very possible that you have a few outdated email addresses, or addresses your guests may not have access to any longer. Or even guests that don’t use email at all! (Think older guests like grandparents, aunts and uncles)
You simply cannot count on email the way you can on traditional mail service.
In addition, that Save the Date card is going to get put up on a bulletin board, your best friend’s refrigerator, or elsewhere in the homes of your guests. That card is going to be a keepsake memory for most of your loved ones! And last – that Save the Date card sets the tone for your entire event!
Etiquette can be tricky, even for the brightest, most savvy of today’s brides.
Invitations by R Squared LOVES love and we are here to help sort out some of the planning details with you and for you. Get in touch with us, and schedule a consultation with the amazing Fran! She’ll help you sort out all of the tangle that sometimes comes with choosing destination wedding stationery.
Be sure to check out our very own collection of Save the Date cards and destination wedding invitations here. You can customize each piece to suite your wedding style, your event, and your personality.
We know this is going to be just the best day ever, and we couldn’t be happier for you!